November 9, 2011
Name: Brad and Cynthia Linder
Years Married: 4 years
Year Encountered: 2010
What was the most surprising thing we learned about each on our weekend? We have learned that the medium of writing to each other is really a more effective way for us to communicate about our feelings. It allows time for thinking about the words you want to say and allows the time to listen/read the words being said.
What was the most surprising thing I learned about ourselves on our weekend? We have learned that there is so much more depth to each other that needs to be reached. Even though we have only been married four years we both agree that when we really are able to communicate with each other, it feels like we are only at the tip of the iceberg. It's a good thing marriage is forever, because we often feel like that's how long it will take to really get to know the person we were created for.
Have my feelings about our marriage being a sacrament changed since our weekend and how? We have always tried to embrace our marriage as a sacrament and as a vocation. That doesn't always mean we remember it! Being part of the WWME Community gives us the opportunity to stop and remember that we are called to this relationship, it's not something that just happened and now we are simply living with each other. Our feelings about living out a vocation have gotten stronger.
How have the WWME tools increased our communication as a couple? The tools give us an opportunity to spend time with each other on our relationship. We own our own business and much of our communication is about work and clients. The tools provided to us over the weekend have allowed us to learn how to separate these aspects of our lives. We may not always utilize these tools as frequently as we need to, but know that they are there and that we know how to use them has been invaluable.
Has our prayer life and/or spirituality changed since our weekend? How? Being able to learn more about each other has deepened our prayer life as a couple. It re-emphasizes that we are ONE. We need to get to know each other better. God desires for us to get to know each other better. That is why marriage is for a lifetime :) It is scary to think that without this weekend we really would not be equipped with the tools and community support that allows us specific ways to learn more about each other spiritually, mentally and emotionally.
What has the WWME community meant to us since our weekend. We really have come to value the monthly Circle Meetings. The other couples have been married for such a variety of different years we find that it benefits us greatly to learn about where people are in there marriages. Being able to share in a safe and supportive environment really helps create a sense of community within our circle
What does "Make a decision to love" mean to our relationship now? It means trying your best to not worry about the small things. Getting to know the other couples has helped us see that there really is no reason to sweat the small stuff. Making the decision to love means making the decision to accept the little things that God uses to help us get to Heaven. Whether it is dirty socks on the floor or making your spouse late for Mass, deciding to love through the little things is what God is asking of us. Mother Teresa reminds us that God is not always interested in the big things, but it is doing the small things with great love.
The Next WWME Weekend is January 20-22, 2012
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